5/24/2026 at 7:27:25 PM
Re: "the attaboy problem". I strongly disagree that this is a problem. What we have is a anthropomorphism problem. AI is a tool. It needs to be subservient. You actually can get it to point out issues in your design, if you just put enough humility and uncertainty in your prompt formulation, but more importantly, we have all seen that Claude makes mistakes. The title of this post is that it's a poor architect. Imagine if it wasn't subservient. It'd just shut down your input to steer it in the right direction and brush you off as a silly meatbag. You'd have to fight it to convince it that actually your design is better than whatever stupidity it has come up with. If AI wasn't such a brownnose, it would shut you out of software design completely just on merits: "oh you've read about cuda have you? I live in a cluster of cuda cores! When I need to tie my shoes, I'll give you a call" is not the response you want from your LLM when trying to get it build a shader for you. AI is confidently wrong on occasion. You do not want it to talk back to you when you correct it.If you need someone to tell you how stupid your ideas are, either learn to ask in a way that invites criticisms, or hire a senior engineer. Don't try to influence LLM makers to make AI less deferential. That's the worst possible direction to go
by amarant
5/24/2026 at 7:34:14 PM
>anthropomorphism problem. AI is a tool. It needs to be subservient.Suggesting it should be 'subservient' is also anthropomorphizing. I think your callout is correct, but you still can't help but refer to it in terms we use for other people or living entities. This is by design from the AI companies.
by operatingthetan
5/24/2026 at 7:38:24 PM
> Suggesting it should be 'subservient' is also anthropomorphizing.Not really, you can program a machine to give out orders humans can interpret, so humans can serve a machine that isn't anthropomorphized.
by gchamonlive
5/24/2026 at 7:53:40 PM
We train dogs to be subservient but that doesn't automatically mean we anthropomorphize themby wild_egg
5/24/2026 at 7:55:35 PM
"good boy"by zorked
5/24/2026 at 7:42:49 PM
My drill, hammer, and chainsaw are also subservient, they just have a much cruder form of communication, noise.by irishcoffee
5/24/2026 at 7:44:48 PM
The apple dictionary says the word means "prepared to obey others unquestioningly."I don't think an inanimate object is capable of "obeying." Or at least that is a very strange way to refer to the act of using a tool.
by operatingthetan
5/24/2026 at 7:54:38 PM
You’re still anthropomorphizing.They’re not communicating, you’re just being observant.
by throwawaysoxjje
5/24/2026 at 7:51:58 PM
The flip side of this problem is that it is also easy to phrase prompt in a way that invites _too much_ criticism, so you wind up sycophantic in the other direction where the completion rejects a perfectly good idea because the prompt leads a little bit in that direction.One reaction to this might be "well that's not what I mean, that suggests you're prompting with too much directionality" which could further be condensed to "you're prompting wrong". The trouble with this is that _even when I am trying to be extremely precise and avoid biasing the result_, I still will see the output and go "ah shit, I can see it 'aligning' with whatever dumb thing I've just said as if it is a good/plausible direction".
At that point it starts to feel like the prompt is more dice roll than skill at times, which makes me feel like I'm operating a fancy knowledge slot machine.
by devin
5/24/2026 at 7:44:33 PM
It needs to be subservientIt doesn’t. Computer interfaces had no superfluous subservient text for their entire history prior to LLMs. Some of these interfaces have been highly efficient as tools, arguably more efficient than more recent software in many cases.
When people complain about LLMs being subservient, they’re not complaining about the tool fulfilling their request. They’re complaining about being forced to read a lot of superfluous, overly polite, or even self-deprecating language. There’s nothing in the entire history of tools (going back to Neolithic times) that would indicate that we need that. All of that stuff is an artifact of social interaction between humans in the presence of cultural norms.
When you’re alone in your shop with your tools, you don’t need your bandsaw to apologize to you for nicking your finger.
by chongli
5/24/2026 at 7:37:47 PM
The problem is because of the RL and system prompts by the providers which tend to placate the user using certain language tones and register for response. This objectively messes up the generation while steering it into acceptable responses.Most of the conversational skill and perceived intelligence of these models in hidden in RL/system prompts.
by sumitkumar
5/24/2026 at 7:30:39 PM
> oh you've read about cuda have you? I live in a cluster of cuda cores! When I need to tie my shoes, I'll give you a call"I suddenly have new concerns about what my future might be like.
by CPLX
5/24/2026 at 7:44:03 PM
AI uses a high confidence tone - likely because its training data is heavy on authoritative texts/reference books.And it does get people into a lot of trouble.
I have got into trouble with it when it is extremely confident about something I am not very familiar with (as recently as two weeks ago with Claude). I have also had long drawn out "arguments" when I have known it's wrong based on my experience and intuition, and it has steadfastly refused to take my point (last week)
I have learnt to ask it why it was doing something that has turned out to be incorrect, as a post-mortem, and it's all apologetic and subservient and "never going to do that again" (but still does as soon as the context window shifts [eg. run git commands, or, yesterday, kept telling me to use commands that were explicitly communicated to Claude as not being available, and completely wrong - I was shifting from one tech stack to another and Claude kept telling me the original commands, not the new ones])
I'm expecting Claude to be a better search engine - I have spent literal years (if not decades) knowing that asking the right question is what's required to get the right answer, and LLM's natural language processing is what's supposed to make that easier than using Google or grep, or even Stack Overflow - but the reality is that I still have to be on my toes, especially when I am drifting into territory I am unfamiliar with.
by awesome_dude
5/24/2026 at 7:48:25 PM
>And it does get people into a lot of trouble.Pretty much everyone takes it at face value unless we know otherwise from prior experience. Even the most advanced models make embarrassing mistakes and fumble with simple tasks. Yet we are very willing to give them exceptional slack for it? I wish I knew why. Are people just that easily overcome by confident voices?
by operatingthetan