5/3/2026 at 7:40:53 PM
It reminds me that ADHD is really not that useful of a name, executive function disorder would be a more accurate name from when I was looking into ADHD in the past. It's not about attention deficit per se, as that's downstream of struggling with executive functioning. At least it's the definition that lines up with my experience best (I have ADHD). I'll make lists in order to keep track of important tasks (which in theory would help with attention deficit) but then I'll sit down to do the things on the list and... can't. It's such a hard thing to explain, but no amount of attention hacks can get me over the hump of doing the tasks I'm dreading. That seems much more related to executive functioning.by smj-edison
5/3/2026 at 8:27:41 PM
For me it’s that as soon as I intend to begin a task, I start thinking about every step, and everything that might go wrong at every step, and planning contingencies for every hypothetical problem, and on and on.So suddenly the task seems totally overwhelming, when I could just… not do it. So I find a time later I can attempt it and after a few times it is no longer novel and I forget about it.
If anything is hyper-active, it’s the executive function part of my brain that is driven to plan out every tiny, hypothetical detail before I can start.
What’s missing is the reward and internal incentives for doing things when there are other things that do feel good to do (that aren’t what I need to do).
by nkrisc
5/3/2026 at 10:19:57 PM
I'm the same way and I've found there's no real way around it. I've found it's actually a really useful way of thinking for complex projects and planning and prioritization, but bad for getting things done. The only things that work for me to manage this:1. Relentlessly make distractions high friction. Block websites, go to the office if you get distracted at home, etc.
2. Use time-based daily planning instead of goal-based (stuff like pomodoro helps). If I put "create work plan for project Z" on my to-do list, it is ambiguous and I will put it off forever. If I just say "Spend 25 minutes on work plan for project Z, no pressure on outcome/output", I make tons of progress (and often can continue the task for a while)
3. music
4. the obvious diet/sleep/meds advice
by 121789
5/4/2026 at 2:59:41 AM
This is a great insight, I wonder if that's a sign of Innatentive type ADHD. But I would say that the process of thinking of other things that also need to be done, is not done by the executive function part of the brain. The executive disfunction is the decision not to begin the task.by kristianp
5/4/2026 at 1:20:29 PM
Someone else who describes it like I do. You sit down to do a task, and there's an "invisible wall" between you and the objective. You physically CAN'T type on the keyboard if it pertains to the task at hand. You get up to go on a walk, and all of a sudden CANNOT WAIT to get back home to start the task. It sounds like the most enjoyable thing ever! Until... you get home and are greeted by the "invisible wall" again...by butlike
5/4/2026 at 1:41:25 PM
When I was a teenager, this would sometimes get so extremely bad that I could only describe the feeling of forcing yourself to push through this wall as almost painful.My body would tense up to the point of shaking and I could feel my brain absolutely SCREAMING "NO. NO. NO."
by yuye
5/3/2026 at 8:26:49 PM
I experience the same thing very frequently. I likened it to activation energy in a reaction, that no matter what I did I couldn't create the required electrochemical bias in my brain needed to put ideas into action. It's like being stranded in your own mind, you know what you need to do, but the 'go' just never arrives.I eventually discovered that the adrenaline response from extreme stress ('if I don't get this fucking thing done by 7:30am I'm fired' kind of thing) allows me to lock in and do the thing.
by jcims
5/3/2026 at 9:30:33 PM
>I eventually discovered that the adrenaline response from extreme stress ('if I don't get this fucking thing done by 7:30am I'm fired' kind of thing) allows me to lock in and do the thing.I went the other way. I knew from the start that this "trick" helped me work. It took until my 30s to learn that that's ADHD and that I can skip the stress with medication. God knows how many years of life I've robbed myself of with the stress spikes.
by torben-friis
5/4/2026 at 1:23:06 PM
For me, the side effects of the medication are intolerable. I wish there was a way to get that starting impulse without stimulants or SNRIs which kill my libidoby butlike
5/3/2026 at 9:41:04 PM
Yep, same, except I was like 40. Couldn't believe it took me that long.by SmellTheGlove
5/3/2026 at 10:10:01 PM
interesting. the meds help me in many ways, but often I still need that activation energy to kick things offby 121789
5/3/2026 at 9:41:38 PM
that I can skip the stress with medication
You're lucky. In many countries any helpful ADHD medication is illegal.
by orphea
5/3/2026 at 10:13:25 PM
Yes, I agree, I'm lucky that legality was never a concern.I'm covered by public healthcare so access to medication is stable and costs literal cents. My only complain is that ADHD is not at all known here so it took time and luck to get a diagnosis, because the possibility wasn't in my radar.
It was a surprise to visit London recently and see the amount of ADHD-related ads everywhere (books,clinics, etc).
by torben-friis
5/3/2026 at 10:11:52 PM
I use the same analogy explaining to people what my meds do. They’re a catalyst in that they lower the activation energy of doing anything other than doomscrollingby nathanwh
5/3/2026 at 9:01:12 PM
We need two kinds of managers. Normal managers that manages normal people and ADHD managers that manage the ADHD folk.The ADHD manager has one extra responsibility. Make the thing due 1 week earlier.
by saltyoldman
5/3/2026 at 9:36:45 PM
That wouldn't work (for me, at least). As soon as I figured out the pattern, I'd know I had a week after the 'deadline' and then the pressure is off until that week is passed/nearly upby niccl
5/3/2026 at 9:47:31 PM
That's been my experience with tricks. I'll think of some clever trick to work around my ADHD, and it'll work great for about two weeks. Then after that I'll start anticipating it and working around it. The self-defeating nature of ADHD might be one of the most frustrating things.by smj-edison
5/4/2026 at 10:41:37 AM
Everything is due NOW, seems to work best for me. Just a list to make empty, so I can sleep. Give me deadlines, or ask for estimates, and the task is doomed.by kgwxd
5/3/2026 at 9:04:15 PM
> It's not about attention deficit per seI've always considered it Too Much Attention Disorder.
The way I like to think about it is that neurotypical people have a beam of light shining out in front of them, wherever they turn their head the light shines and that's where their attention is. Nothing else distracts them from where the light is shining.
With ADHD (for me at least) it's like 50 beams of light scanning the entire room constantly for 'something'. This is too much attention to things that I'm not really interested in, but can distract me from anything I'm trying to do or wan't to do.
For things that I am really interested in (like writing code) the 50 beams of light all manage to synchronise and focus in the same place and that's hyperfocus.
by louthy
5/3/2026 at 9:38:32 PM
Attention means an ability to ignore unimportant things. This is why the disorder is attention deficit - your ability to ignore distractions is diminished.by orphea
5/3/2026 at 9:28:02 PM
That’s such a beautiful way of putting itby hnlmorg
5/4/2026 at 2:27:33 AM
Yea, ADHD attention is a like targeting system that has only one setting - it's constantly seeking the most stimulating activity nearby and never stops - sometimes the most engaging feeling activity even changes from minute to minute.But the hyper-focus can be magical when it targets the task you need to do!
by SmirkingRevenge
5/3/2026 at 7:59:38 PM
I find similar behaviour in myself, particularly that dreading a task makes it significantly more difficult to start. I find that if I can manage to do just a little bit, even just open the application and maybe look around a bit at what I need to do, it really gets the momentum going for me.Do you think there's anything that differentiates what we might call "general task dread" that perhaps anyone experiences to a certain degree from a more broad executive function disorder? Or is it that dreading leading to task paralysis is one of many symptoms of an executive function disorder?
by Extropy_
5/3/2026 at 8:51:59 PM
How are you for task completion? For me, transferring a load of laundry from the washer to dryer is not an atomic operation. There is ample room to get derailed and wander off during the twenty seconds it should take. It can be interrupted by almost anything. Oh, I forgot to send that message. Oh, I forgot to check for the parcel. Oh, I need to go to the store today still. And I will walk away and forget to come back and finish.by retrac
5/3/2026 at 9:26:24 PM
I love moving all my laundry to the dryer and forgetting to start the dryer. Probably happens once or twice a month.by TJSomething
5/3/2026 at 8:25:28 PM
I think the frequency and level of impairment is what differentiates normal executive dysfunction from an executive functioning disorder.Perhaps a bit rhetorical, but how often does this task dread occur? Does it also ever occur for things you want to do, not just obligated to do?
For me, I experience this issue for many tasks everyday. Then again, I have never had a normal executive functioning, so I cannot claim to know what it is like for normies.
I’ll also add that ADHD is more than just executive dysfunction too.
by hirvi74
5/3/2026 at 8:55:27 PM
[dead]by lachlan_gray
5/3/2026 at 8:19:46 PM
In my mental model of ADHD, executive functioning is at the center of an hourglass-shaped graph. The bottom half consists of multiple "internal" layers/systems (neurological, psychological), in which some deficiency or deficiencies cause a lack of executive functioning (arrows point up from layers down below upwards to the central element of "executive functioning" to visualize the direction of causation). The upper half shows the outward facing layers/system behavior, social relationships, skills; the arrows point only upwards. I don't have any scientific source for this graph, but I never experienced any "ADHD"-related problem that I couldn't understand through this lens. Happy to share my sketch if anyone is interested.by nkmnz
5/4/2026 at 12:38:57 AM
Please do! This is very original and maybe most interesting conceptualisation in this thread.by dostick
5/4/2026 at 10:39:42 AM
It’s that I try and then can’t. When stuck in bed I can feel this momentum building in my head to push for movement and the a surge of will and then nothing. I didn’t reach the threshold of exerting my will and now I’m waiting for the next wave.Guess we’ll see how my diagnosis goes.
by Weryj
5/3/2026 at 8:24:48 PM
As they often say, ADHD is about having _too much_ attention and not being able to control it.by zeroonetwothree
5/3/2026 at 8:06:39 PM
Yeah, it’s a common topic of discussion in the various adhd discussion groups across the internet. Unfortunately changing the name would have some unintended effects because a bunch of regulations and other things are using the current denominationby dgellow
5/3/2026 at 8:23:59 PM
Ah man I feel you. What helped a bit for me is relentlessly trying to get your career focused on only fun things. It's a long term strategy, but I am now a not-so-successful-yet entrepreneur but I do love about 95% of what I do and that makes me do things fast and without it feeling like effort.by teekert
5/4/2026 at 1:44:27 PM
>What helped a bit for me is relentlessly trying to get your career focused on only fun things.That's what I did.
But now AI is threatening to ruin that.
by yuye
5/3/2026 at 9:02:29 PM
Executive function problems are symptoms of ADHD, therefore renaming it as executive function disorder would omit the root cause. Dr. Edward Hallowell proposes Variable Attention Stimulus Trait (VAST) as a better name.by laserlight
5/3/2026 at 9:18:36 PM
It was even called "minimal brain damage" at one point early on!I'm also reminded that "Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder" and "Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder" are different in kind but necessarily in magnitude.
The former comcerns more localized obsessions and the latter is more of a global "default state of perfectionism".
by zenoprax
5/4/2026 at 7:28:30 AM
How are you dealing with that executive dysfunction in the end?by shinryuu
5/4/2026 at 12:42:32 PM
to me it is definitely "attention deficit", and it is a deficit in attention in two distinct ways:1) it's a deficit in that i can't put my attention where i want to put it when i want to put it there. this is definitely "attention deficit" to me.
2) when my attention wants to focus on something on its own somehow, i can't prevent it from putting its attention on that; that thing becomes my main focus for some amount of time that I can't really control. that's also definitely "attention deficit" to me, but in another way than the first way.
by naikrovek
5/4/2026 at 2:16:43 AM
I always picture it like trying to force and hold a strong magnet flush against the like pole of another. It seems like it will be easy at first, but the closer they get, the harder it becomes and just as you are about to manage it, they fly apart and the magnet gets stuck to an even stronger one nearby.You manage to pry them apart, but it goes flying through the air and only to get stuck on an even stronger magnet still. And on it goes, over and over, until the magnet is stuck on the biggest, strongest magnet.
Your attention is constantly being repelled from less engaging activities to more highly engaging activities, and eventually you land on whatever the most engaging activity is nearby. Sometimes without even realizing it
by SmirkingRevenge
5/3/2026 at 8:04:54 PM
[flagged]by colechristensen
5/3/2026 at 8:23:15 PM
That's not what ADHD is, that's what someone who knows very little about ADHD and has never experienced it themselves thinks it is.by driverdan
5/3/2026 at 8:36:20 PM
Your comment's parent might know very little about ADHD, but your critique shows an antiquated view as well. It's not only the ADHD person that needs to change by any means available so that they fit the expectation of the system. The system, too, is in need of change, so that we accommodate more diverse people. Improving the environment that you operate in goes a very long way and might enable exactly the kind of change that makes children and adults with ADHD thrive. Medication is just one option. CBT and more flexible environments are as important, probably even more so.by nkmnz
5/3/2026 at 9:55:05 PM
It's not an either/or thing. At least for my kid, it's been a combination of the 3 that have helped, but if you dropped a component (including the medication), she wouldn't be doing nearly as well.by SmellTheGlove
5/3/2026 at 8:38:26 PM
>Your comment's parent might know very little about ADHDI know plenty about myself and that label.
by colechristensen
5/3/2026 at 8:50:46 PM
I agree with the label being a huge problem. It's basically compressing a multitude of individual characters with huge differences on multiple dimensions of behavior into a binary label, which people confronted with someone bearing that label then decompress based on their personal view on the topic, which is like an algorithm trained on caricatures of what society portraits as ADHD. Your comment sounds like you're doing the same mistake: you take your favorite solution for a complex problem, which (I agree here!) might actually be sufficient for some, a relief for many, any at least good or not harmful for everyone else, but you try to market it as the only necessary solution while invalidating everyone's needs that go beyond this solution. It creates the reactions that you can see in already a handful comments that basically call for the individual to accommodate to the system at all cost...by nkmnz
5/3/2026 at 8:51:21 PM
There are many people who have the diagnosis and don’t agree with the mainstream perspective on medication etc. Don’t claim to speak everyone.by andrewvc
5/3/2026 at 9:35:23 PM
Hmm, I do this this is a point worth considering, but it needs nuance. ADHD is overdiagnosed in young boys, by about 3% iirc. But the thing is overdiagnosis doesn't mean that it doesn't exist at all. It's certainly underdiagnosed in middle-aged women for example, and tends to be underdiagnosed in women in general. There's also a point to be made that some ADHD meds are not without side effects, and kids aren't always listened to when they complain about them (I have a friend who was on Concerta as a kid and had a lot of side effects that really bothered her). But also, ADHD meds are a complete lifeline when they work, and they do work in most cases.by smj-edison
5/3/2026 at 9:52:15 PM
> It's certainly underdiagnosed in middle-aged women for example, and tends to be underdiagnosed in women in general.What I'd like to see studied more is whether that root cause is underdiagnosis of inattentive type ADHD. My daughter was diagnosed because my wife is aware of this and had her evaluated, which led to me getting evaluated and eventually on medication. The common thread I've observed is that if you're reasonably intelligent such that it's not causing you to fail classes/get fired, people will just call you lazy and not entertain the idea that there's actually something else wrong. Couple that with girls/women having inattentive type w/o hyperactivity, and I think you do end up with a pretty solid bias.
> But also, ADHD meds are a complete lifeline when they work, and they do work in most cases.
For some there's a lot of trial and error, too. I wonder how many give up or insurance stops paying before they get to the right medication.
by SmellTheGlove
5/3/2026 at 8:26:49 PM
Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either? I am in my mid-thirties and I am still waiting for the hyperactivity to die down.by hirvi74
5/4/2026 at 1:48:04 PM
>Ok, but what about when those children grow into adults that can’t sit still for 8 hours either?Frankly, my ability to do exactly that when I do something I'm interested in is part of the problem.
I'd snap out of my hyperfocus at 11pm, realizing I haven't eaten or drank anything since lunchtime.
by yuye
5/3/2026 at 8:43:29 PM
Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours? Do you think someone who can't do that is defective?by aguacaterojo
5/3/2026 at 10:17:39 PM
> Do you think most people are made to sit still for 8 hours?No, I was just reiterating the value in the GP comment. I do think the ability to set still has some sort of distribution like all other human attributes. I think it's more important to focus on how little someone sits still compared to how long someone sits still. I'd be lucky to make it a few minutes.
> Do you think someone who can't do that is defective?
No, I do not think of myself nor others that way. I would identify as misaligned. Honestly, ADHD does not cause me as much harm as it does for everyone else in my life. And brother, let me tell you, after all the punishment you receive for being misaligned, you really start to believe you are defective.
by hirvi74
5/3/2026 at 8:37:54 PM
Getting the best out of yourself and your environment isn't a matter of waiting to fit in to the sit-down-and-focus shaped life. You have to learn about yourself and learn about how to shape your environment to live your best life, and a major step is not thinking about having that temperament as a disease to be overcome.by colechristensen
5/4/2026 at 1:12:57 AM
Ironically, I know myself very well. I had no choice early on life. I was not officially diagnosed until I was a young adult, FWIW.Most of my difficulties in life are due to the intersections of my 'temperament' with others. If there was a way I could make life work for me, I would have done so by now. I did not choose to have this 'temperament', and I do not want to have this 'temperament.'
If you have been able to make your life fit for you, consider me jealous. But you need to understand that because you or others are capable of doing so does not mean everyone else is capable of the same.
by hirvi74
5/4/2026 at 2:46:45 AM
I understand, very personally, the struggle and frustration.by colechristensen
5/3/2026 at 8:14:19 PM
It’s amazing to see a disproven and frankly ancient viewpoint espoused with a straight face here. When I was a kid in the eighties your way of thinking was already defunct.by EA-3167
5/3/2026 at 8:26:22 PM
This isn't defunct in any way. To the contrary. I've been diagnosed with ADHD myself and creating an environment that is accommodating to my individual needs has absolutely been in line with what experts recommended to be, and it's been a corner stone of my success.CBT teaches you to evaluate how to shape the environments your living in so that you can benefit the most from your resources and weaknesses and suffer the least from your weaknesses. For some people, this can include taking stimulants, and this is where I do not condone your parent comment's undertone. Nevertheless, it's been proven over and over again that the rigid system that we call schools does not welcome neuro-atypical students and that we could do a lot more to help those who do not react well to stimulants, who do not want to use them (for whatever individual reason), or simply haven't been diagnosed yet! Allowing for movement instead of forcing to suppress it is a very good example for what could be done. One shouldn't make the mistake to think that this alone would be enough for every single child with ADHD, though. But for some, it could be enough.
by nkmnz
5/3/2026 at 8:19:01 PM
And that viewpoint doesnt even account for adult ADHD/executive dysfunction.by Akronymus
5/3/2026 at 8:40:55 PM
Exactly. It also ignores recent genetic testing that's showing how different mental illnesses and developmental disorders cluster around the same dysfunctional gene cohorts. To very little surprise ADHD and Autism appear to be closely related for example.by EA-3167