4/7/2026 at 9:54:56 PM
This brought to mind a quote from Ira Glass:> Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know its normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.
I think listening and transcribing is great advice. Careful listening will help to improve your own listening ability and taste. It also helps to demystify why something is great.
But it's also going to be a struggle - especially at first. You have to be prepared to struggle, a LOT. Most people won't be able to keep at it, and that's one of the things that separates the greats from everyone else.
by freetime2
4/7/2026 at 10:29:09 PM
I'm a jazz musician, and my kids are both professional classical players. I've asked them why they don't learn to play jazz. My daughter described pretty much what Glass is saying here. She calls it "fear of sucking." She knows what good jazz improvisation sounds like, and trying to make herself do it is pretty discouraging.Not that there's anything wrong with loving and playing classical music, which is a factor too.
This may be why it's different when you start very young. You're not conscious of your own sucking, you just play, usually in a setting where everybody's congratulating you. For sucking. ;-)
I started on classical, and got into jazz by accident, as a bassist. It turns out that you can function in a band as a bassist without having to improvise very much, so I was able to learn at my own pace and eventually did. In fact a lot of good jazz players started out in school jazz bands or large ensembles where you didn't have to be a good improviser right up front.
by analog31
4/7/2026 at 11:25:12 PM
I picked up Violin as an adult, have done recitals, and I suck. Being able to suck and find joy in something anyway even if you're not top nth percentile is a valuable life skill.by gritspants
4/8/2026 at 11:55:33 AM
That's why I enjoy singing so much. Moderate skill good enough as most people can't even bring themselves to do it in public out of embarrassment.My sister is in a whole different league than me in terms of singing but she also performs live, which I don't plan to do unless it's a karakoe evening.
by Tade0
4/8/2026 at 3:13:35 PM
Finding happiness being an amateur at anything is a super power! IME nothing kills the joy like transitioning to being a professional.by skeeter2020
4/8/2026 at 7:28:37 AM
This is so true! I think as kids we naturally don't mind doing something creative and it not working out well, but as adults, we worry too much about seeming competent.In a career, seeming competent can be valuable, but for learning something new and creative, it often just creates a barrier to getting started.
by benrutter
4/8/2026 at 8:55:41 AM
I think it's pretty frustrating if the songs/pieces you actually want to play are demanding or even at the virtuoso level.If you really want to play a David Gilmour guitar solo or sing some Led Zeppelin, it better not suck because it won't hit the mark at all.
For me, the reason to pick up the guitar as a kid was to play stuff I liked, stuff that turned out not to be that easy, and every time I play, I feel that gap of where I feel I should be to respect the music I'm trying to play.
I wish I had more your attitude.
by wvh
4/8/2026 at 9:57:34 AM
Rick Beato did a video about being able to identify guitarists by a single note. David Gilmour was by far the easiest to recognize. It got me wondering how much work would it take to even be able to play a single note as well as David Gilmour. And even then I would still only be imitating someone, not creating something original.by freetime2
4/8/2026 at 12:36:40 PM
Wow, true. The David Gilmour note is plain as day. Only other one nearly as easy for me was EVH. The Jimi note sounded like Jimi but like the top comment says, a lot of the others sounded like Jimi too.by chucksmash
4/8/2026 at 5:11:36 PM
Jimi and Eddie are the two singularities of guitar, though. Before them it was unimaginable for anyone to sound like that. After them it was the normal.(Although they're also tones that a lot of players still try to chase for their entire lives and never really reach. There's some magic to them beyond the more obvious steps.)
by a96
4/8/2026 at 10:46:51 AM
There's plenty of good stuff that's hard to play, but there's also so much good stuff that's relatively easy.It's also obvious to me that at this point I'm never going to reach the virtuoso level even if I really wanted to, but so what? I suck, but whenever I manage to play something that I couldn't before it brings me joy.
by seba_dos1
4/8/2026 at 12:11:32 AM
So many things in life are better if you can get past that fear of not being good. Because very very few people can skip the stage where they are not good. (I'd be comfortable saying nobody. But there is always somebody, it seems.)by taeric
4/8/2026 at 3:07:26 AM
I tell my Mentees one of the greatest skills is getting good at not being good at something. Being comfortable being uncomfortable.by grogenaut
4/8/2026 at 3:25:45 AM
This is good advice for most human activities. I told my students these exact words (you gotta get comfortable being uncomfortable) countless times when teaching math and physics.by ziofill
4/8/2026 at 7:28:45 AM
Can attest to this.I picked up singing 4 years ago (I’m 42 now), starting from nothing, and I’ve been taking regular lessons. I still suck. But I suck slightly less than I did when I was starting, and what motivates me is the sheer joy that it brings. I just hope it lasts.
by nathell
4/8/2026 at 2:29:40 PM
Embrace the suck. You don't become great coloring in the lines; that only gets you to the 100th percentile. Smearing the paint creates the 101st percentile, which drops everyone else to the 99th.by butlike
4/8/2026 at 12:13:21 PM
Yup: golf. Go out there and enjoy the air, sun, walk, company.by grvdrm
4/8/2026 at 10:26:48 AM
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4/8/2026 at 2:37:33 AM
"Dude, sucking at something is the first step at being sorta good at someting" - Jake the Dogby socalgal2
4/8/2026 at 4:35:37 PM
this reminds me of when i was 16 and a multi-instrumentalist but in love with the bass i had a chance to go to any music school anywhere that i could get into (top choice was the academy of music in rotterdam) i eventually settled on what i thought would be a rock school (based on the instruments taught) in clearwater by some guy id never heard of named jeff berlin.....lolby jzemeocala
4/8/2026 at 1:41:53 PM
"Fear of sucking" is such a perfect way to put itby TimByte
4/7/2026 at 11:02:09 PM
I was at a dance hall the other day, and this young lady came floating in. It's hard to describe how she walked - just like she was effortlessly gliding. It looks easy, but anyone else would look like a moose trying it.It's the result of a lifetime of ballet dancing. Probably 10,000 hours, at least.
I was just in awe.
by WalterBright
4/8/2026 at 1:09:57 AM
It's not just the 10,000 hours, it's learning it very young.I am an ex-professional ballet dancer, and one of the things I always find interesting is that any experienced ballet dancer can instantly tell who trained as a child and who didn't solely by how they stand (literally not even moving) at the barre. But the thing is, children with only a few years of training under their belt will often show this good form, while I have literally never seen someone who started as an adult, even dedicated adults who take class 4-5 times a week, get rid of that "I started as an adult" posture.
As an example, I was actually quite impressed at how Natalie Portman really managed to "look the part" in her role as a ballerina in Black Swan. Still, she wasn't fooling anyone with training - even with just a simple port de bras (raising of an arm), you could easily tell she wasn't a dancer.
by hn_throwaway_99
4/8/2026 at 2:40:29 PM
I used to think this was true in skateboarding but eventually I found exceptions.4-5 times / week is not a lot on its own.
You need like 20-25 hours / week. That’s how many actual hours a lot of us kids were spending, at least skateboarding.
If we take the 10,000 hour figure literally, at 20 hours/week, you get good in 9 years, which kind of fits when kids get good.
Almost zero adults I know can (or are willing to) spend 20 hours/wk on a physical hobby.
It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t learn something new, but you gotta be a little strategic.
by harrall
4/8/2026 at 1:31:30 AM
I'm not in the least surprised by that. Bones in children are softer and more malleable, they don't harden up until 16 or so. (That's why young athletes should stick to more reps and lighter weights until 16.)I've tried emulating those movements, and just look like Bullwinkle.
by WalterBright
4/8/2026 at 8:05:55 AM
My partner's also a dance, and this is what's always come across from her, too - that you can tell a dancer from a glance in an instant, even on the street. I have a little bit of an eye for it but only by virtue of being around that environment.(also: ex-pro ballet to HN? Can't imagine there's much crossover in that Venn!)
by emsixteen
4/8/2026 at 1:05:26 PM
> Natalie Portman...you could easily tell she wasn't a dancer.Which is interesting, because from what I can tell she studied ballet from a young age, which potentially puts a hole in your theory. Unless you're only taking about professional dancers who started young versus professional dancers who started late, rather than any (i.e. non-professional) dancer.
by kQq9oHeAz6wLLS
4/8/2026 at 5:48:33 AM
funny, surfing is like this tooby tayo42
4/8/2026 at 12:36:16 AM
Another incident: I was stepping out of my ride to the airport, and noticed another woman pulling her luggage out of the trunk of a car. I remarked "I bet you're a ballet dancer." She said "nope, I'm an ice dancer!" Funny I could tell just by the way she wrangled the luggage.by WalterBright
4/8/2026 at 1:21:46 AM
and I'm on my knees looking for the answerby claysmithr
4/8/2026 at 5:28:18 AM
Killer replyby pcdevils
4/8/2026 at 1:32:05 AM
???by WalterBright
4/8/2026 at 1:42:20 AM
It’s a song“Are we human or are we dancer”
by mettamage
4/8/2026 at 4:27:33 AM
thank youby WalterBright
4/8/2026 at 10:48:52 AM
Not to counter your point, but you must have never seen moose moving at speed through a forest. They are astonishingly graceful and surprisingly quiet.by cwmoore
4/8/2026 at 3:15:43 PM
My daughter just stopped competitive dancing last year after essentially a lifetime. The impact of all that ballet on her posture is worth it alone. Also she's phenomenal at posing for otherwise unscripted photos; her smile is always perfect.by skeeter2020
4/8/2026 at 9:01:26 AM
A lot of us don't turn out to be professional musicians, writers or athletes. In between family and work, you start to realize how much these people put in to be at the top of their game. Time and effort you can't really put in if you didn't make the jump and have other life commitments.I guess that's why a lot of people grow old wondering what life would have been if they would have followed through on whatever talent they appeared to possess in youth.
by wvh
4/8/2026 at 10:41:07 AM
Stephen King said something similar (but I'm sure I'm misquoting): Every writer begins with one million terrible words inside them. The sooner you get those words out, the sooner you get to the good stuff.by jazzyb
4/8/2026 at 4:12:55 PM
I get sad whenever I read this quote and know I was one of the people who quit. Not for lack of trying, I had severe mental issues that trained my mind to associate practice with distress. It caused my burnout twice on an optional activityThe struggle is real for all people but in particular I feel robbed of resilience to even do anything. I can't speed up my therapy so the thought of years of practice being lost to time always hits me like a truck
by customs2
4/8/2026 at 2:09:29 AM
I think another aspect is regarding fundamentals. In order to stay engaged in the early years, you will skip over the minutia. But to achieve the next level, you must go back and drill the fundamentals, unlearning any bad habits in the process. Only then, once you’ve “learned the rules”, can you then surpass/break them.by TheJoeMan
4/8/2026 at 9:09:42 AM
> Most people won't be able to keep at itI always tell people the secret to learning guitar fast is to practice for a minimum of 5 minutes a every day for 20 years. It's simultaneously a gross oversimplification while also literally being the only way to do it.
by schwartzworld
4/8/2026 at 3:52:48 AM
This works for programming as well. I’ve spent countless hours reimplementing things or cloning things just to learn how they work. Sometimes mine is better than the original, sometimes it’s not. But regardless, I learn a lot along the way and occasionally get to teach something as well. It’s a great way to learn new languages, new concepts, new systems.by jonhohle
4/8/2026 at 9:40:01 AM
I just started photography last year and it makes much sense. This and: - do it with intention, to copy or simulate to learn how to do what you want. If you just go out and take random pictures you will not learn much. If you go and try to simulate some style, lightning, you learn a lot. I also think most of my pictures really suck even if i try. But then i look on pictures of someone who has "photographer" in profile with couple thousand subscribers and most of their pictures also suck. I hope one day to bridge the gap.by kvgr
4/8/2026 at 12:58:18 PM
Ah yeah I feel this, I've done it as a hobby for a long time. One frustration I would have is how many photos I would take of a framing that I didn't like. I've spent a lot of time getting in my head that unless this is a moving object that focus is gonna be challenge I get ONE picture. Helps me sit with the framing there instead of just clicking away and having to post filter hundreds of photos.Still have to post filter hundreds of my kids though but it's worth it for some of the shots I get. Too bad they can't sit still.
by wookmaster
4/7/2026 at 11:30:32 PM
I've picked up a couple languages relatively easily and I 100% attribute it to the fact that I have no shame - zeroI will speak in my ugly, broken, American accent and do it til I improve. I didn't read about this technique in a book or anything, I simply mirrored what I saw kids do and IMO a big reason kids do well with picking up language (aside from all the physiological stuff) is that they actual speak it - they aren't concerned about whether it sounds like baby talk or not
A lot of advice feels trite and cliche, like keep trying, etc - but often times it takes repetition and hearing the message in many different ways before it sinks. As a tangent - this is the value i found in therapy too - a great therapist that was patient and consistent in their messaging day in and day out eventually led to some of what they said sinking in.
by gxs
4/8/2026 at 1:50:05 AM
I also picked up a couple languages as an adult and can attest to this. You have to be willing to talk and know you are butchering the language. Nobody cares either. People are genuinely pleased to hear the effort, especially if you're a guest in their country.by hunter-gatherer
4/8/2026 at 5:55:31 AM
I guess you never tried to speak French in France.by Ma8ee
4/8/2026 at 9:13:54 AM
This is more of urban legend that may somewhat hold true in tourist-heavy areas.by abcd_f
4/8/2026 at 9:56:07 AM
I’m French, this is definitely not an urban legend, for some unknown reason « wrongly » spoken French sounds especially grating to me and all the other French people I know. We might not say it to your face , but it is extremely hard to ignore. I wonder if it’s the same with other Latin languages, or if it is just some consequence of years of forced standardisation of the French accent.by darkfloo
4/8/2026 at 11:05:06 AM
Weird, I'm French and most people I know are rather delighted to hear foreigners speak French. We have quite a few English pensioners living around where my family lives, and I live myself along the Flanders/Wallonia border in Belgium so we're quite accustomed to hearing "bad French" speakers I guess, but the popularity of foreign speakers singing in French seems to indicate that foreign accents isn't really a problem for many French speakers.People being annoyed at bad French is stereotypically Parisian to me.
by seszett
4/8/2026 at 10:44:53 AM
I would assume it's grating for anybody to hear their mother tongue butchered. More so when both sides know they could just switch English and have an adult conversation instead of struggling to buy a loaf of broad and a bottle of water. I always feel the urge to switch and have to remind myself that the other person is making a big effort on their side and that should be appreciated and respected.P.S. My mother tongue is Spanish and it's many accents are anything but standardized.
by wcrossbow
4/7/2026 at 10:12:59 PM
That reminds me of an interview I heard with comicbook artist Chip Zdarsky. He was talking about how we all love to draw as kids, but eventually around 10 years old or so we start to become aware that what we see in our heads isn't anywhere near what's appearing on the page in our drawings, and that gap acts as a powerful filter discouraging most people from pursuing art any further.by LiquidSky
4/7/2026 at 10:23:30 PM
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4/7/2026 at 10:41:32 PM
I don’t understand this non-sequiturby drivebyhooting
4/7/2026 at 10:32:23 PM
You know you're gonna get banned/deleted, right?by NetOpWibby
4/7/2026 at 10:35:10 PM
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4/7/2026 at 10:48:49 PM
I don't know you but your life has value. I hope you find peace.by NetOpWibby
4/8/2026 at 4:50:05 AM
Are you implying some people don't have taste, or less of it?I like to call it interest. What makes something interesting to some that I'm not sure.
by hirako2000
4/8/2026 at 10:42:38 AM
Taste absolutely can and does evolve the more you play. It doesn't mean that everyone taste evolves towards one absolute taste, people stay different.I kinda think it applies to all artistic hobbies. On one hand you learn a practical hands-applying skill, on another hand you learn how to express yourself and/or listen to expression of others in chosen medium. And, well, the more you look at something, the more you see. The more you see, the more you know your own preferences.
What's even more funny, the "detail perception" skill doesn't always sync to your guitar skill. So (for me at least) there are times when I'm thinking I'm the hottest stuff around (because I just mastered something I deemed important), and there are times when I'm down because my detail perception suddenly got better and turns out I would prefer to play with more nuance (but didn't learn how to yet)
by lesostep
4/8/2026 at 4:51:20 PM
I can attest. After 7 years of practising guitar, the gap between my ability and my taste is even greater compared to when I started.Actually I can say the same thing for programming, I can build most software I would think of building when I started 20 years ago, but there is still a large gap between what I can build but what I discovered later and now would like to be able to build (I'd need to learn lots of maths in addition to other things).
by elevatortrim
4/8/2026 at 1:37:57 PM
Yes, the struggle is kind of the whole pointby TimByte
4/8/2026 at 4:04:21 AM
Do you know the source for this quote? I would love to read more, if there is more.by sameers
4/8/2026 at 4:16:10 AM
It's from this! https://youtu.be/X2wLP0izeJE?si=jwmFevXkDPbkfejVby cryzinger