2/17/2026 at 5:17:39 PM
When my wife was diagnosed with cancer and eventually went into remission, I didn’t really process what was happening at first. I was completely focused on getting her through it. The grief hit me later.What helped me more than anything was going out into the garden and digging. I made sure to do it safely, since I know it can be risky, so I dug wide and with wooden supports, but there was something about just digging and digging down that let me work through all the darkness that had built up in my head. It gave those feelings somewhere to go.
This is unrelated, but I wonder if I did actually hit on something primal in myself.
by poszlem
2/17/2026 at 5:51:30 PM
I think the “primal urge” to dig is just really seeking the endorphins of manual labor. Digging like that is especially attractive because there’s little planning (unless you’re making a tunnel like the subject here) and no material investment but the earth beneath your feet.by devmor
2/17/2026 at 5:57:26 PM
One of my sisters had four boys (and no girls) and during summers they would drive her crazy with their boredom. When they were about ages 8-14 one summer she said: go in the back yard and see how big of a hole you can dig.Wide-eyed they said: really? She said yes, dig as much as you want, but the only rule is it all gets filled in before school starts in the fall. 30 years later they say it was the best summer ever. Every day they were working on it and all of their friends would come by and help dig and plan what development would come next.
by tasty_freeze
2/17/2026 at 6:01:11 PM
How deep did they get? Hope she kept an eye on it, unsupported holes quickly get dangerous, people underestimate how much weight is in the soil if the sides give out and just how dangerous that amount of weight moving can be.by rtkwe
2/17/2026 at 6:40:34 PM
It was more sprawling than deep. It was a series of trenches connecting "rooms". I know they also had "water features" at some points, but the water would soak into the ground pretty quickly then be a mess for a few days, so they didn't do that.No collapses happened and everyone is still alive. :-)
by tasty_freeze
2/17/2026 at 9:32:10 PM
Happy that all's well that ends well, but for any parents considering this, trench collapses have killed hundreds of workers in just the past decade. Anything deeper than a couple feet might be a hazard that needs to be mitigated.by stvltvs
2/17/2026 at 11:36:32 PM
Also depends on the local geology and how tenacious the kids are. I couldn't dig to dangerous depths as a kid even if I wanted to because the soil got way too rocky to dig through before 3 feet down.by rtkwe
2/18/2026 at 4:10:43 PM
Why not lean into it instead of becoming a wet blanket? Just look at the trench every few hours or so, and if it gets too deep, tell them about and help them with setting up some shoring.by ufmace
2/18/2026 at 7:40:12 PM
That's what it means to mitigate the hazard, right?by stvltvs
2/18/2026 at 1:34:11 AM
Perfect Venn diagram of man's urge to dig holes and the endless possibility and adventure of childhood Summerby soupfordummies
2/17/2026 at 6:20:44 PM
You can get the same endorphins with exercise, but you don't get to see the results of your work. It's so much more satisfying when you can clearly see your progress. Playing in sandboxes or digging holes in your yard is a game, but manual labor alone is often just work.by autoexec
2/18/2026 at 12:02:55 AM
I haven’t been to a gym since leaving college (I rowed in a championship 8, and twice daily workouts were a thing). Instead I do manual labor and love it. I’ve built dry stack basalt walls, mowed, edged, pruned, chopped and sawn, poured and broken cement, etc and never missed the (for me) pointless repetition of “exercise”. I respect folks that can do it, but I can’t understand how.by mlhpdx
2/18/2026 at 9:27:14 PM
Oh, there's a lot of exercise that's not so pointless. Climbing, soccer, racquetball, dance, etc.For running, I put on some headphones and get lost in a meditative headspace. For weights, I usually end up reading a book on my phone. Still, neither weights or running are as much fun as the gamified exercises (sports), the puzzles (climbing), or the social-oriented exercises (dance, partnered acrobatics, some sports).
by Windchaser
2/17/2026 at 11:45:47 PM
Yeah, that's part of why those gameified exercise apps are such a big hit - you can see "results" before you see the results!by devmor
2/17/2026 at 6:03:09 PM
I figure if Seymore Cray thought digging was useful for mental hygiene it's probably ok:by downut
2/17/2026 at 6:39:46 PM
https://web.archive.org/web/20080521163217/http://www.time.c...> For Cray, the excavation project is more than a simple diversion. "I work when I'm at home," he recently told a visiting scientist. "I work for three hours, and then I get stumped, and I'm not making progress. So I quit, and I go and work in the tunnel. It takes me an hour or so to dig four inches and put in the 4-by-4s. Now, as you can see, I'm up in the Wisconsin woods, and there are elves in the woods. So when they see me leave, they come into my office and solve all the problems I'm having. Then I go back up and work some more."
> Rollwagen knows that Cray is only half kidding and that some of the designer's greatest inspirations come when he is digging. Says the chairman: "The real work happens when Seymour is in the tunnel."
by shagie
2/17/2026 at 9:09:30 PM
Winston Churchill famously used to build brick walls to deal with the "black dog" of depression.by pcrh
2/18/2026 at 12:28:47 PM
The International Churchill Society has an pretty fun read about his bricklaying "career".https://winstonchurchill.org/publications/finest-hour/finest...
by technothrasher
2/17/2026 at 11:37:52 PM
Best digging I ever did was in a torrential downpour for 4 hours. Mud and grass was flying everywhere, my shoes were squeaking as they drove down the shovel. I was soaked to the bone and my heavy, cotton clothes slapped freely against my skin with each shovel full I tossed to the side. That was some of my favorite digging ever.by abelitoo
2/17/2026 at 8:32:58 PM
You found your chew toy.Joking aside, I too have spent many days digging with a shovel and pickaxe on my desert property. There's something to it, even Jim Keller (of DEC, AMD, Tenstorrent...) has discussed digging trenches in some of his podcast interviews.
by pengaru
2/17/2026 at 10:14:44 PM
How much did you excavate?by titanomachy
2/17/2026 at 11:03:16 PM
I dug a hole that was about 3 meters deep and around 9 meters wide at the surface (I had to keep a gentle slope and cut wide terraces so the walls wouldn't cave in).by poszlem
2/17/2026 at 10:27:09 PM
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