2/13/2026 at 4:31:54 PM
Discord's not going away, but I looked at setting up a self hosted matrix server last night and had it up with an element client in 20 minutes with docker compose. I don't think I'll do a discord<->matrix bridge (since it requires extra stuff on the discord side and I think you lose encryption, which isn't that important), but if you have buddies who you want to keep in contact with, it's not a bad solutionI explored but am avoiding big, public channels because there honestly isn't that much chatting going on in the ones that I found
by neko_ranger
2/13/2026 at 4:50:19 PM
You should try XMPP with a Slidge gateway… it uses a lot less resources (CPU, RAM, & storage) on your server. The clients are lighter weight too.by toastal
2/13/2026 at 5:46:55 PM
I haven't touched XMPP for over 10 years, how's screen sharing and file sharing over XMPP doing?by foxrider
2/13/2026 at 8:59:02 PM
I never managed to get file sharing working on my self hosted discord instance. Needing to setup DNS entries and subdomains for every little feature got tiresome and I gave up.Also the default of "save all shared files on the server" didn't sit well with me.
But xmpp is so damn complicated I am 100% sure I am misunderstanding everything and doing something wrong.
by com2kid